Five things you should never say to a Manifestor

Us Manifestors tend to take ourselves a bit seriously sometimes – maybe it’s all that pent up anger we feel when we’re out of alignment, or perhaps it’s the pressure of knowing we’re kind of a big deal…

The last 18 months have been intense for most people, and because Manifestors are really tapped into the collective tether, many of us have also been feeling a lot.

This article is really about bringing some lighthearted fun to what can feel like the very serious work of deconditioning and informing. You might like to send it to your loved ones as a reminder of what NOT to say to a Manifestor (we are here to initiate, after all) or just soak it in yourself Mani and set a reminder to inform the people around you what NOT to say to you.

1. Never tell a manifestor what to do (even if it’s for their own good)

Trying to tell a Manifestor what to do will almost always elicit some anger, and the response “don’t tell me what to do”. EVEN if you are saying it for our own good.

My husband (Splenic Projector) is so nurturing, warm and loving, and when I’m trying to push through my rest cycle, he’ll sometimes say to me, being the wise Projector he is, “go to bed for a bit, I’ll make you a cup of tea. You look like you need rest for a bit.”

And my immediate response is: DON’T tell me what to do. 

As Manifestors, this is our trigger response. We are not designed to be told what to do. Our closed aura is designed to protect us from other people interfering in our initiations and taken astray by other people trying to use our power for their own initiations and their benefit.

But we need this power for our own initiations.

Non-manifestors reading this (or Manifestors speaking to other Mani’s) – I know you want to tell us what to do sometimes. But trust us – we really don’t need you to. 

If you really, really feel like we need guidance or help, and we haven’t asked for it, try instead posing it as a suggestion. For example:

“Hey, have you considered you might be a bit tired and just need to rest?” or “Can I make you a cup of tea?” or “Would you like to lie down with me for a moment?”

We’re much more likely to respond positively to this than being told what to do.

2. You just need to explain that to me

I truly wish that as Manifestors we could explain to other people why we really can’t explain things to them.

It’s not that we don’t want to – it’s that we genuinely cannot explain to you what is going on for us behind this closed aura because we don’t always get it ourselves.

We’re just trying to get quiet, listen to our inner voice and move through all the fear and doubt that comes up any time we’re trying to initiate stuff.

There’s a lot going on that you can’t see, and explaining ourselves to other people isn’t where our energy naturally goes, or wants to go.

We cannot give you the plan, and we can’t always tell you what we feel. Informing will always feel strange to us, but we’re doing our best. Explaining just isn’t our MO. 

If you want an explanation – try asking a Projector. Not only do they love to do this and are naturally gifted at it, but they’ll do a much better job than a Manifestor at getting you to see things from all different angles.

3. Just wait for XYZ

Gahhhh this one. As a manifestor, you’re the only energy type designed to take action independently. You’re not here to wait around, Mani. You’re here to take action NOW.

The only exception to this is our emotional mani’s. For all of you Emotional Manifestors – ride that wave baby, and make a decision when you feel neutral (and stop trying to find certainty, because you won’t, and if you wait for it you’ll never initiate anything).

For other HD energy types, waiting is super aligned. Generators and Mani Gen’s are waiting to respond, Projectors are here to wait for an invitation while our Reflectors take the whole lunar cycle, if not longer – the KINGS and QUEENS of waiting!

As Manifestors, we’re not good at waiting, and we’re not designed to wait. Our bodies literally tell us to go initiate something, even when we have so much resistance we feel like we’re going to explode. We start to feel this pressure and BOOM – initiate.

4. Anything that begins with “You’re too…”

As a Manifestor, it’s highly likely you have heard some, if not all of these things being said about you:

• You’re too intense
• You’re too sensitive
• You’re too much
• You’re too dramatic
• You’re too confident (wahh?)
• You’re too intelligent (double wahhh??)

I’m here to tell you that Mani: you are not too much of ANYTHING. You are the perfect amount of everything.

No joke, for the last 25 years, I’ve had birthday cards, GIF’s, emails, all types of correspondence under the sun that describe me as “though she may be little, she be fierce”.

This is so representative of the manifestor energy. We can be in these tiny human packages, but wow is our energy POWERFUL.

When we are lit up in a creative urge, our energy grows BIGGER. We are the fuse on the firework, and if we don’t light it up – no one gets to see the fireworks up in the sky.

Whenever someone says this (or you say it to yourself) remember that if you weren’t this much, then everyone else wouldn’t be receiving all of the benefits of being in our energy. 

5. OMG I’d love to be a Manifestor!

I love the sentiment but… Just, no.

While I love being a manifestor now, it sure as hell is not easy. 

One myth I’d like to bust straight away is that just because we have Manifestor in our name, does not mean we’re better at manifesting than other people.

There is this grand misconception about Manfiestors that all we’re meant to do is sit around and get ideas, speak them out loud to other people and then magically things materialise in our world.

Just, no. Nup. Nada.

To all the people who tell us this, or think this: if you really thought this was how it worked, don’t you think we would all be living our dream? Don’t you think we would have everything in our lives we ever wanted if all we had to do was get an idea, speak it out loud and then it would happen?

When we break down the steps of manifestation specifically for us Mani’s, that does kinda explain what it comes down to. But it’s a MASSIVE over-simplification of the actual experience of being a manifestor.

Being a manifestor can be extremely lonely. On the other side of our closed aura, we repel people for no reason other than they don’t resonate with our energy. People can feel suspicious of our energy, which we learn to overcompensate for in “niceness” and people pleasing. Even when we learn that it’s rarely anything to do with us, we’re still human and it takes its toll after a while. 

It’s also damn hard informing people all the time. It’s not natural for us, and we would much rather sit in the comfort of our big closed aura and never speak to anyone unless we wanted to.

The amount of fear, doubt and uncertainty we navigate on a daily basis – when we initiate, when we rest, when we’re in the middle phase of resting and initiating is HARD CORE. As Manifestors, we need to manage our energy closely so that we can properly and fully initiate both when we feel a creative urge, and so we can properly rest.

If you knew what it was like to feel creative for one week out of every two months, and have to sit in this weird transition rest cycle phase while everyone else around you is able to receive inspiration and creativity on a regular basis, you wouldn’t say you wish you were a Manifestor.

Saying you’d love to be a Manifestor without knowing what it’s like discredits and oversimplifies our experience. Don’t get me wrong – I am very proud to be a Manifestor, because I know that me, and every Manifestor chose to be this exact energy type in this lifetime. 

But it does not mean this gig is easy and comes without effort.

All HD types struggle in their own way, but that’s what the human experience is about. It’s about overcoming adversity and growing into who we’re meant to be.

No one is exempt from that, but to partition Manifestors off as people who just dream and speak out loud and get everything they want is misguided.