We naturally tend to veer away from the big, complex issues that are challenging, to focus on the conditioning and shadows that are our individual responsibility.
Patriarchal conditioning is a systemic issue that affects everyone (including men) in a negative way for different reasons, of which this blog post doesn’t have room to go into.
Today I want to tackle one theme relating to the general conditioning that female Manifestors in particular face that is hardly ever spoken about or acknowledged in the human design space – patriarchal conditioning.
I believe that we can’t just take human design as it is: we must start looking at it within a context.
One of the most dangerous things about the spiritual and personal development industry is when this self-responsibility is taken too far.
There is so much that is out of our control, out of our hands, and this is a big external conditioning that has really nothing to do with your energetics, but nevertheless has a massive influence on how we as Manifestors show up.
I believe that as spiritual teachers and leaders, we need to start acknowledging this generalised conditioning and how it impacts us, so we can work with it.
For the purposes of this article, “patriarchy” refers to the power relationship between men and women, that exists as a system of social structures and practices, in which men dominate, oppress or exploit women (Walby 1990).
This article is not about man-bashing or blaming individual men, but rather seeing where society values masculine traits such as strength, discipline, focus, logic, over more feminine qualities of softness, fluidity and intuition.
My intention is to put the spotlight on the specific conditioning that female manifestors have internalised over generations as a result of living in societies that oppressed, exploited and dominated women.
This article is written based on my own experience as a white woman living in Australia, and i acknowledge that there are other privileges that come with this.
As female manifestors in western societies, we experience an upbringing that is built on the patriarchy.
Whether you consider yourself a feminist or you are high achieving with big ambitions, many women internalise the conditioning that comes with patriarchal authority. This shows up in our friendships, relationships, parenting, childhood and workplaces.
Many of us were taught from a young age to be submissive and quiet. We are taught (or unconsciously pick-up throughout our lives) that men are the leaders and women are expected to take on domestic duties and parenting (at least, this was my experience).
We are shown, through role models and media we consume, that our role is to be a “good woman” and sacrifice our desires and wants for others. Just look at the picture of the “idealised” mother: the more we give of ourselves, the “better” we supposedly are and the more validation we receive.
Female Manifestors who internalise these beliefs therefore, are in a bit of a bind; on the one hand, we are told to submit to patriarchal authority. And on the other hand, Human Design teaches us that we are the visionaries, the leaders, the activators who are here to initiate people.
We’re here to be brazen, blunt and go against the grain.
We’re here to live on the edge of the collective behind a closed aura, so we can be uninfluenced by other people around us and not bend to their will.
So what does this fusion of patriarchal conditioning and Manifestor energy create?
People pleasing, over explaining and out of alignment Manifestors who are deeply resentful and angry at being told what to do.
Some of us go rogue and become the rebels at the edge of the collective, pretending not to give a f**k while the rest (and the majority, in my experience) become submissive and people pleasing.
The thing is – Manifestors are here to expand for the good of society.
And when we please others before ourselves, and put our creative urges on hold, we are stifling our unique initiating energy.
Firstly, it’s about awareness and noticing where these beliefs and subsequent behaviours show up.
Where do you submit to male authority, or prioritise what men think over your own beliefs and intuition?
Start looking at your family environment, marriage, workplace and social structures you’re part of, and remember your role as an initiator – you don’t need other people to understand your point of view, or even tell them you are doing this. Simply by being in their presence you will initiate them.
This deconditioning in particular, because it is so deep, might very well bring into question your identity. If you’re not pleasing people, what are you doing? Where does your value come from?
In many ways, it’s easier not to look because it likely will shake things up. So here’s the encouragement I want to give you:
You may have heard me speak about the seven year paradigm shift that began in 2020 which is moving us into a feminine age. This means that many women, particularly those with a strong feminine essence, are starting to “wake up”
The last year has been the dark night of the soul for many of us, but remember that as we move through this transition, things are happening quickly and it’s important now to challenge these internalised beliefs so that we don’t continue to carry them forward into the future.
What do I believe about myself?
What do I believe or think about other women?
Do I truly see myself as visionary? If not, what conditioning is getting in the way of me connecting with that?
Irrespective of your gender, you came here as a Manifestor to CHANGE THE WORLD. And now is the time to really look at this.
Patriarchal conditioning also negatively affects men and male Manifestors, but in slightly different ways. It’s more acceptable for male Manifestors to be bold and brazen, because they are already validated to be the initiators and not taught to be submissive in the same way that women are.
I’d love to hear your thoughts – female and male manifestors – what has been your experience seeing the fusion of manifestor energy and patriarchal conditioning?
October 6, 2021