One of the first things we learn in Human Design is our “self-theme” and “not-self theme” which, translated from HD speak, means how we feel when we are in alignment, and not in alignment.
The state of alignment for Manifestors, or self-theme is peace. On the other hand, when Manifestors are out of alignment and our energy isn’t moving in the way it is optimised to, we can experience our not-self theme of anger.
For most Manifestors learning this for the first time, there are two different ways we experience it:
1. It’s a moment of validation. We begin to recognise that anger has been a big part of our experience and it feels like we’re being seen for the first time.
2. “Anger? Me? Nah, I’m not angry”
I grew up learning that verbal expressions of anger, particularly as a woman, was unacceptable.
But this is my natural tendency. I lash out quickly, and the anger dissipates just as quickly before I go back to being the peaceful Manifestor who’s chilled, laid back and happy.
Learning to express my anger outwardly was a big journey I went through during the early years of my adulthood moving away from my family and into independence.
If you’re reading this trying to remember to the last time you were properly angry, ask yourself whether you experience any of the following:
If yes, then it’s (very) likely that you may be in that place of internalising your experience of anger.
Being a nice-angry Manifestor is all centred around one key idea: it is ok for you to express anger.
Your anger is showing you when you are off course. It’s asking you to check in with how you’re showing up, and directing you towards recorrecting.
Because as a Manifestor, it’s not about whether you feel anger (you will) but in what ways it is being expressed. Manifestors experience anger when:
· We’re doing things we don’t want to do
· There are people pushing up against our closed aura
· We feel like we’re being controlled
· We’re not taking action on our creative urges
1. Know which way your anger is going
Is it staying in (repressed) or coming out (reactive)? Knowing this will help you learn how to manage it.
If you have internalised anger, it’s about allowing outward expression. Allowing yourself to express anger in healthy ways can look like:
· Hitting pillows
· Punching the air
· Screaming or yelling into your hands/pillow
· Throwing a tantrum
· Putting on some angry music and moving the energy through your body
If you’re more often experiencing explosive, volcanic anger it’s not so much about outward expression (you’ve already nailed that) but about understanding what is happening when you are expressing your anger. Is it harming other people and am I doing things when I am angry that I later regret?
It’s normal for you to feel angry. Your anger is not “bad”, it’s here to teach you and bring you back into alignment.
This is not about finding someone to blame, but rather looking at your environment, the choices you’re making and the interactions you’re having to see where you could be out of alignment.
And once you’ve identified that, inform the people around you, and the universe, of what you need to come back to peace. Try asking yourself: What was the trigger and how did I get here?
Maybe it’s because
Our anger is not just a flair of random emotion, it’s a messaging signal trying to pull us back into alignment, and this is your opportunity to check it out.
I firmly believe that Manifestors are deeply kind, even in their anger. It’s not about playing by other people’s rules, but allowing your anger to initiate change in your life, and perhaps even in the lives of people around you.
So next time you’re angry, instead of swallowing it all down (or vomiting it all up) after you have investigated why you’re angry – open your mouth and inform people.
Because when you inform other people, you initiate them into their own journey with their own anger.
You can absolutely be a nice-angry Manifestor. Do not underestimate the initiatory power of sharing your experience with others. It could just be the breakthrough they need.
How about you Mani? Do you struggle with anger or is it something you’ve always found easy to express?
If you loved this article, I’d love to hear about your experiences with anger. Share with me on social media and tag @thehollymaree and let’s start a conversation about anger so it can start to be seen for the transformative and potent power it holds.
November 17, 2021