If you’re like most Manifestors, you have likely got more than one Generator in your life. It is simple statistics. Generators and Manifesting Generators together make up 70% of the population, so the likelihood of you having several in your regular daily life is high. It is a fact that comes with some challenges, and often the Manifestor – Generator relationship faces some serious strain. If that is you, you aren’t alone! Let me help you understand why it is happening and what you can do about it.
Our beautiful Generators account for about 37% of society. All Generators have a defined Sacral center; the key feature on their chart that makes them Generators.
This is a really important starting point because they may have many other centers either Defined or Open/Undefined as well, but they are a Generator because they have that Defined Sacral center. Manifestors never have a Defined Sacral, making us ‘non Sacrals’.
They can be Emotional Generators (Defined Emotional center) where they need to make decisions based on their Emotional Waves or they can be Sacral Generators (Defined Sacral center) (also known as Pure Generators) where they have an Undefined Emotional center but, of course still have that Defined Sacral, in which case the Sacral center is their Inner Authority (decision maker).
It’s all built off of that Sacral Energy and from the qualities of their open aura. The Generator aura is warm and welcoming to others around them. Generators are constantly being lit up and responding to everything that is happening around them. That Sacral center is like a pinball machine.
It goes “Oh my goodness, you know the sun rose in the sky or this person spoke to me or I ate this food I really enjoyed or I saw this book that looked really interesting or I tried out this new exercise or I saw a colour that I really liked…..”
The Sacral center goes ding, ding, ding, and all those pinballs fly around and get really lit up.
We call it the ‘Sacral Spark’ because it gets super excited when responding to the things that it really, really enjoys.
This means that Manifestors and Generators are naturally designed to work together because when a Manifestor initiates something that truly excites a Generator, they become inspired to complete the thing we initiate.
But how do we, as Manifestors, love our Generators so that we can have that really harmonious, collaborative, beautiful relationship together without the tension of Generators expecting us to be responding all the time just like they do?
As Manifestors, we need to be informing our Generators. Informing opens a doorway in our closed aura which says:
This allows the Generator to truly respond in alignment so they can say:
Immediately, we have a way forward together simply by the act of informing.
It is fairly common to hear a Manifestor lament that the Generator in their life just doesn’t get them. We tend to create a very narcissistic narrative about who is truly responsible for the discomfort in the relationship. Note: It isn’t just up to the Generator to make it work! To truly love the Generators in our lives, we cannot place all the responsibility on them to just get us and do things the way that we want to do them. We need to really educate ourselves by:
Every Generator can be completely different, just like every Manifestor can be completely different. For example, my daughter is a 6/2 Sacral Generator who has an open Throat, so she doesn’t like to speak.
She gets very, very tired from speaking, and if I constantly request that she speaks to respond to me, it wounds her, so I need to be mindful of the fact that my Defined Throat already triggers her and makes her tired.
Additionally, because my daughter is a Sacral Generator, not an Emotional Generator, she is always responding in the moment. She feels really happy and really satisfied when she’s creating something, when she just follows that Generator spark, builds it in her own way and puts her energy into it until her energy taps out.
So I need to be mindful to not place any rules or demands or expectations on what she creates, when she creates it and how long it takes her to create it. I’m not going to impinge her with rules but rather allow her Sacral energy to have complete freedom. If she gets excited about something and she starts doing it but then doesn’t want to do it anymore because she realised that it didn’t actually light her up – that’s great!
I’m going to let her drop it and not force her into a position of having to continue and complete it just because “Generators are here to complete things”.
If you have Generators in your life, I really encourage you to start paying attention to the specifics of their chart, to learn how they uniquely operate as a Generator and where they may be experiencing wounding or where they have a unique way of expressing their energy.
Relationships are a two way street. We may need people around us to support our Manifestor ways, but Generators need that too.
Everyone wants freedom – that isn’t just a Manifestor thing! We just want freedom in unique ways, but guess what? So do Generators.
To really show a more widespread banner of love to those Generators in your life, give them freedom and permission to:
It really is all about that Sacral center! Help them to learn how to use it and how to nurture it. In doing so, you will shower love on your Generator.
The power of the Manifestor energy lies in our Defined motorised Throat. It is what allows us to talk ALL day long. But it is also the powerful energy that gives our words an impact that other people’s words do not have. It is such a gift of love to use that Throat of yours for the people in your life when they need to be positively impacted.
If your Generator is getting stuck in that “should” pattern:
…All these “shoulds” are not lighting them up. Use your Defined Throat. By using your words, you begin to impact and influence them which helps to bring them out of that “should” pattern and gives them permission to do the things they truly desire to do.
Share your insights. Give them permission to follow their joy instead of just the work. Your words will hold special meaning to them.
If you see your Generator feeling really tired, offer them something fun. They need pleasure, and they need fun. Even though they can be incredible worker bees, they are not here to work all the time. That Sacral center of theirs needs fun and play to refuel itself.
What does your Generator like to do for fun? Set that up for them. If you don’t know, ask! Give them permission to even just pursue the idea that they don’t have to work until they collapse!
Really learning and understanding who your Generator is, and how you can love them is so profound. Healing your relationship will bring you so much growth to you both.
All the steps above have the ability to help you move to that place in the Manifestor-Generator relationship, where we are initiating and they are being inspired to complete what is being created.
This is exactly the way that the Collective was designed to be. We are designed to work together in harmony, so let’s start working towards that.
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December 8, 2021